Tag: mental health

Update kind 18/09/18

❗❗TRIGGER WARNING: SELF HARM AND SELF HATE❗❗

Right so umm,,, I’m not okay. I’m just done with being fat and disgusting and a pig. I’m done being a bloody horrible dancer. I’m done being the fat / ugly / unwanted friend. I’m just done, 100%. I constantly feel anxious and like I’m annoying those around me. Self harm and cutting is always on my mind, but no one wants a girl who cuts her pain away.

They are perfect and amazing and incredible and I’d date them in a heartbeat. But they’re not ready and I gotta respect that. Still, there’s moments where I wish they were mine and that I could show them how much they nean to me. Then I’m reminded how alone I am and I try not to think about it.

Thing is, you asked how I was and I responded “I’m good thanks”, so I must be good, right? Just tired and done, wanting to sleep for a week

meatyogre:

bristlee1:

alteaplier:

pearcult:

Ok so this post is extremely long and I put it all together for my blogs Feeling sad page but as I don’t have a huge amount of followers I realize so many people are not seeing this information so I’m posting it here too!

alternatives without harming yourself:

  • holding/squeezing ice.
  • splashing your face with water.
  • getting a rubber band and snapping it against your skin (this could hurt, though it’s better than other ways that people usually choose to self-harm).
  • take a hot shower or bath.
  • eat something sour. it will take your mind of the urge. (lemon, sour lollies)
  • massage where you want to self-harm.
  • get a red pen or red paint and draw/paint over where you usually self-harm.
  • remind yourself as to why you shouldn’t do it. (scars, harms organs, leave memories etc…)
  • describe what you are feeling. (is the urge/pain in your chest, fists, legs, arms, head).

killing yourself will not help. it is not a solution.

you have your whole life ahead of you. you have so many more years that you can accomplish things in.
for example;

  • having a family.
  • getting married.
  • to watch the sun rise.
  • to watch the sun set.
  • to save someone else’s life.
  • finish school.
  • get your dream job.
  • to laugh.
  • to smile.
  • to go camping.
  • travel to new places.
  • to wake up every morning to the person you love.
  • friends.
  • family.
  • to keep that promise you made.
  • to accomplish a goal.
  • to meet your idol.
  • to listen to new music.
  • theme parks.
  • video games.
  • chocolate.
  • to be able to look back and say “i made it”.

what you’re going through is temporary.

in case you need to hear this:

  • you are loved.
  • you are wanted.
  • you are needed.
  • you are beautiful.
  • you are handsome.
  • you are important.
  • you are not alone.
  • you are okay.
  • you are strong.
  • you are worth it.
  • you are smart.
  • you are not a failure.
  • you are useful.
  • you are going to be okay.

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Text HOME to 741-741

for those who might need it

the one that stuck out to me was “save someone’s life”

@500kcal

secondchoiceana:

if you look at her closely

you can see that,

every now and then

she turns away from her group of friends

her smile falters

and she becomes another person for a few seconds;

a sad person,

a person who is broken and damaged,

and after a few depressing seconds,

she goes back to the group,

smiling and joking around,

she almost looks like she is actually happy

but if you look closely

you can see how spurious her smile really is

and you can see all the wreckage behind her fake smile

blackcoffee-in-bed:

stephrc79:

inkskinned:

ive been on tumblr a long time and i remember when everyone said “oh don’t romanticize mental illness” and it was agreed that doing that was gross and a good way to kill people indirectly

but somehow we’ve come full circle and there are people who legit defend their right to be anti-recovery there are people who don’t want to get better and spread the idea that you can’t get better as if it’s gospel and it’s fucking frightening to me bc nobody seems to want to say “hey? this is toxic and untrue and is your disease speaking, and it’s not something you should accept.”

and i feel like every recovery post gets about 500 of these people saying “this isn’t something that will work” “cool karen i’m depressed” “maybe it worked for you but it won’t work for other people” and that’s… just… im so sorry if you’re 15. i’m sorry if you’re in high school and watching grown adults tell you it doesn’t get better. that nobody says that with time and help and patience the world stops being so heavy, that accepting your illness as a fact is one thing but accepting it as the only way to be is just wrong, that you can learn to live with it and still find some degree of “happy”…. if i had seen this shit back when i was … oh god starting at 12 when i was already self-harming …. i think i’d have actually honest-to-god killed myself. not a joke, not a funny tumblr punchline, i would have actually just killed myself. 

i’m saying this right here and right now to the adults on this site. if you for any reason shoot down positivity that’s causing no harm – you might have indirectly worsened someone else’s condition, and you should try and do better in the future. if you find it necessary to tell people “recovery is a lie”, you need to do better. i know everyone has different circumstances, but i also know that mental illness behaves in such a way that everyone thinks they can’t recover.  if you feel like you should be spreading the Word Of Relapse, you are causing toxic language to be normalized and you need to do better. 

im team “cool karen ive got depression and that means i’m going to try this because i’ve got to try something” i’m team “romanticize recovery” i’m team “it isn’t working now but it might in the future and it’s worth staying to find out” im team “hey this didn’t work for me but it might help somebody else out”

fuck guys it shouldn’t be an unpopular opinion to say “i don’t want any of you to die”.

Oh thank fuck someone finally said it!

Urgh, YESSS

tinydramatist:

angstriddentrashhuman:

misangremellama:

panda-pear:

misangremellama:

Reminder for parents that though you may be struggling, it is never appropriate to use your child as your therapist/counselor. It’s unhealthy for the both of you. 

Can I ask why? I’m genuinely curious

There’s a few reasons as to why its wrong.

For one, a kid is not equipped to handle a parent’s problems. I’m not saying to never express your feelings or say that you’re having a problem to a child. That can be healthy. But to use them to just dump on is too much. Children just aren’t equipped to deal with the heaviness of adult problems, especially if they’re already going through things themselves.

Two, the inherent power imbalance makes it really uncomfortable. Your child isn’t your friend, they’re your child. Even if they can offer advice, this sort of thing can become like a role reversal. They also would have a hard time separating themselves from it when it becomes too much. A lot of parents feel entitled to their childrens’ time and space, so the children can become overburdened with no reprieve and no way to express that this isn’t their job. 

There’s probably more and better ways to explain this, but that’s my two cents on this.

Because I was the oldest child when my parents marriage was collapsing both of them used me to vent about the other, forcing me to justify their negative feelings about a person that I loved by virtue of their place in my life. At 10 years old I was attempting to negotiate the workings of an adult relationship that had never worked and validate their emotions without being harmful to the other. All the while I was deteriorating into an even more depressed and anxious reclusive child, losing friends and and missing out on normal experiences. I felt like I was responsible for the survival of their relationship, above my own well-being I had to figure out how to save them from divorce, from splitting the family up. I never felt like I had the right to tell them I couldn’t handle it. So I shoved everything down and became weirdly mature, too aware of the fact that I was an adult even if I didn’t want to be. Now I have severe anxiety, depression, and PTSD and I can’t even keep a job. I’m 28. Don’t do this to your kids. Please.

^^^^^^

It is not noble to isolate yourself/remove yourself from people’s lives without them asking you to!!

iesika:

howilearnedtocope:

Mental illness will try everything to convince you that everyone would be better off without you, and you are actually doing them a favor if you leave their life. This is a trap! Its only telling you this to make you more miserable, alone, and helpless, and you will NOT make anyone happier by disappearing.

I know you’re going to tell me that you are an exception, that you really are horrible and make everyone else miserable. But mental illness makes it impossible to accurately assess the impact you have on other peoples lives, and whether or not they want you around. Therefore, unless the other person explicitly tells you to, assume that you leaving will only hurt the people who care about you.

I’ve been in this situation before many times. The most recent time I got that low, I explained to a friend that I felt this way – that I wasn’t going to come to things unless specifically invited, or ask to tag along, or ask if I could come over, because my default was to assume I was unwanted.

she gave me a key to her house and told me she’d be happy to see me even if I showed up in the middle of the night unannounced and emptied her fridge without asking.

Talk to people instead of assuming the worst. It helped me.